The Journey to Women’s Security: Our Program’s Story
Welcome to a journey of empowerment, compassion, and change, a journey where emotional support and the creation of safe spaces for women take center stage. Together, we will delve into stories of resilience and triumph, where women from all walks of life have overcome adversity with the unwavering support of our community.
Here, Women Stop Hiding and Start Shining
Women who once hid from their fears have not only positively transformed themselves but also become catalysts for the empowerment and transformation of other women.
Our Cause, Our Story
We have indeed come a long long way! I remember how and why it was conceived in the first place and how I brought the best team in the world together to share the dream – Enai Agodo, Becky Attah and Tejiri Doro. Good things sometimes come from deep pain.
Have you ever screamed silently? Have you pressed your face into the pillow while hot tears of despair flow?
Three years ago, I was going through some valley experience in my personal life. It was hard. I contemplated walking out of my marriage, never looking back and damning the consequences. I didn’t care anymore that I was a pastor, highly esteemed in church circles, Christian wife role model to many, mentor and counsellor to eager younger generation. Not even the shame and embarrassment was enough to deter me. My marriage was in shambles, there was no peace, my blood pressure soared, my hearted fluttered and palpitated, I was losing weight and suffered from insomnia.
I was stressed and stretched beyond measure. Yet, every morning, I put on my public face, strengthened in my secret place, set my face as flint and went to work, functioned flawlessly, closed, do a stint in the church office and or service and got home at night drained and wronged out. I slept with a headache and woke with a headache. How did I manage multiple personalities, grinding through the day know what you left at home, knowing that you had barely had any sleep?
But the cycle continues, day in day out, no reprieve, no succour, no down time. So I reflected, and pondered, women go through this and much worse in some cases. Yet we hold it all together. We may be broken, but we are not shattered. We actually are tougher than we think! For me, the God connection is my hiding place, my strong tower, my solid rock. It makes the equation balanced. When all else fails run to the rock that is higher than you, that cannot be broken. He it is that broke the yoke and restored joy in my marriage and home.
And ... That’s how BBNS was born, to reach our to women like me, to encourage women going through stuff, to provide a safe place to vent and or give yourself a pat on the back.
So if you are that woman who is where I was or worse, I want to assure you that you are in the right place. Your change will come in due season. One thing we also do on this platform is hold quarterly zoom prayers to support and give you hope. God hears, God listens. You are in the right place and it is your celebration too. Today we are 3.
Beautiful and courageous ladies, welcome to a carefree time, let your hair down, get a glass of wine, coke, juice etc, sip, gist and celebrate every lady on this platform. It’s our day!!!
If you are just joining us, we want to heartily welcome you. Only females are allowed here please.
On this platform:
- You are allowed to express yourself on those deeply rooted issues you can't dare discuss with anyone,
- You are permitted to vent and blow off steam
- You are free to cry, let yourself be vulnerable, let your guard down
We will discuss everything and anything that causes pain for the woman. We will provide a shoulder to cry on and give Godly counsel to repair and build. You can be assured of the uttermost confidentiality as this group is solely for ladies. All posts are vetted before they are allowed to be posted.
Please feel free to tell your or someone else's story that will help others heal or give strength to move on. We should be our sister's keeper.
Also, feel free to invite others
Blessings
Is this you?
Broken But Not Shattered
You are tougher than you think you are!
“Madam, where are you going? Madam, madam……” The taxi driver was perplexed. The woman had stopped him but was not saying anything. She looked blankly at him, lost in an inner world of turmoil and uncertainty. She stared at him and mumbled, “I have forgotten”, as the tears dropped silently.
One recurrent feature in a woman’s life, especially the married woman, is that she will face shocking revelations in the character and personality of her spouse as the marriage progresses. Some may be pleasant and others brutal and unbearable surprises. The brutal and unbearable surprises may be emotional, mental or physical and can have grave psychological and physiological effect over time.
Are you bruised, battered, shamed, broken in body, heart and soul? Have you lost your will, personality and sparkle? Do you feel alone, hemmed in, suffocated, used, no one to talk to? Broken But Not Shattered is a space for you to vent, cry, let your hair down and maybe talk to someone. Believe me lady, I understand. In this group, we will discuss everything about the woman and her predicament, we will provide a listening ear and counselling sessions when need be to help you to mend. We understand that if you bend over backwards until you break, it will be difficult to put humpty dumpty back together again. You may be broken but broken can be mended, even shattered, though fragmented can be put together again for with God nothing shall be impossible.
This group is a closed and confidential group. It is open to only females, especially married women. To join, kindly note that you will need to fill a short form for assessment by Group Admin. This is for security reasons please.
Thank you for joining us today on our first BBNS Breakout conference since the pandemic. I trust that you have been further enlightened, strengthened by what you have heard.
Four years ago I started this platform Broken But Not Shattered - You are tougher than you think you are, as a result of the phase I was going through then. Are you bruised, battered, shamed, broken in body, heart and soul? Have you lost your will, personality and sparkle? Do you feel alone, hemmed in, suffocated, used, no one to talk to? Broken But Not Shattered is a space for you to vent, cry, let your hair down and maybe talk to someone. Believe me lady, we understand.
On BBNS platform:
- You are allowed to express yourself on those deeply rooted issues you can't dare discuss with anyone,
- You are permitted to vent and blow off steam
- You are free to cry, let yourself be vulnerable, let your guard down
We discuss everything and anything that causes pain for the woman. We provide a shoulder to cry on and give Godly counsel to repair and build. We do not judge you, we do not condemn you, we do not shame you. You can be assured of the uttermost confidentiality.
We set up this online community for anyone struggling with emotional challenges, to come in so as to receive support and also to support others.
We welcome any lady who is currently struggling; anyone who once struggled; anyone who struggles intermittently; and anyone who is interested in supporting members of this community.
It is open to only females, married, divorced, single, widowed, separated.